How To Deal With Over Bearing Colleagues In The Work Place

How To Deal With Over Bearing Colleagues In The Work Place
I worked for many years in an office environment and would have enjoyed the experience if it was not for a number of over bearing and annoying colleagues. These people seemed to spend the whole day bitching and gossiping about other people which can make life at work very stressful and uncomfortable.
After leaving school I was excited that I was now entering into the adult world. I was more than happy to leave behind me the childish ways of school life where people are constantly taking the mickey out of each other which is apparently supposed to be fun and basically act like fools. This was certainly not what I saw as enjoyment.
I eventually obtained a position working for an insurance company where I would have to carry out basic office duties. I was slightly apprehensive as it was all new to me of course but what I found when I started to work their came as quite a shock. Some of these so called adults were also acting like they were still at school.
The males in the office were always at each others throats throwing insults which I have to add were mainly in jest and basically acting like they were fourteen years of age.
The women though were so annoying it was untrue. Of course it was not all of the women but just a handful of them. This however was enough to make it an uncomfortable place to work. These women were always ready to spread gossip about other people and were so two faced it was unbelievable.
As an example I will tell you a story which I am now able to laugh about but which at the time was quite hard to handle. I went out for a few drinks one night and in the bar there was a woman who worked in the same office that I did. She was what I called one of the bitches!
I went over and started talking to her. I had had a number of drinks and felt quite sociable. She had a friend with her who I have to say was very attractive and I also started to make small talk with her. I started to get on really well with this friend and thought that I had pulled etc.
After buying them both a drink I went to the toilet. Whilst I was in the toilets my friends warned this friend of my colleague not to get too close to me because I was gay (which I am not). They were just trying to ruin it for me nice hey!
I came back to the group and both of these women had left to go somewhere else. I was most frustrated but was unaware of what had been said.
I went back to work the next day and people acted differently towards me. I later found out from a good friend that this colleague had told everyone that I was gay.
I have no problem with people who are gay and this incident showed me what it must be like for them at times.
I went up and told this woman exactly what I thought of her and warned her never to spread any rumours about me again as it would be the last rumour she would ever spread if she did etc.
The next few days were quite unpleasant as people were treating me like some kind of leper. I did not try to convince them that I was straight as it should not be an issue in the first place.
After this I went to work with the sole intention of doing my job I do not need these type of people in my life.
If you work with people like I have described above I feel sorry for you. Try hard to not let them ruin your day at work as if they do then they will have won.

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